Fear is a Liar

Raw, but worth it…
I have been told most of my life I am “too”… too loud, too happy, too sparkly, too broken, too driven, too much. In my head it was translated into you are broken and not accepted. This message played out many times throughout my life. 6 weeks after leaving in -patient rehab (straight up the hardest thing I have EVER done) my father sat me down with other family members to announce 3 things: I was his MOST expensive mistake, he regrets adopting me, and I had fucked my life up so badly that there was no returning. Please know this was all done after my Mum died, a 6 month period full of attempted suicides, and 120 days in patient rehab where I fought for my life. I was 32. The tears ran down my face as I stared at my bio father, his second wife, my dad, and his second wife. They smirked. Faith and Ruth both looked pleased. I silently cried. I come from hate. I come from people who enjoy destroying others. These are not my people, but all I knew. In that moment, I wanted nothing more than to either die or drink. I did neither. I made another choice. I called my rock. He talked me off the edge and then asked… what do you believe about you? I latched on to the idea of “do the next right thing.”.

At 6 months sober I gave my dying father my 6 month sobriety chip. He threw it and said “It should have never fucking happened to begin with.” I cried. I shook. I called my rock. I rigidly locked into the belief… the next right thing.

As my father was dying, I was pushed aside. I was devalued. I was not heard. I did not drink in defiance to the hate. At his funeral my bio father announced… your family is dead now, no one wants you, no one loves you. I was not allowed at my father’s wake. I took this immense pain and transmuted it. This was the first day I fed the homeless. With red eyes and a tear stained face I took my last $20 made sandwiches, fruit cups, and juice box sack lunches. I wrote things like “you are valued”, “you are here for a reason”, “better days are coming” and passed them out to every needy person I came across.

In this moment I realized two things: EVERY human has value and needs love and I have the power to be a positive force of love in other’s lives. This would be my legacy.

Fear is a bitch of a thing. It encapsulates us. It chokes out life and hope. It changes the lens you view the world through. It tampers the joy and enhances the hurt. Fear is a liar.

Please know…you have value, you are enough, you are wanted, you are loved, you are here to change the world, and most of all I am grateful you are in my life. Transmute your pain. Take the pain and plant flowers. Take the hate and push out love. Take the feelings of being invisible and show the world they are seen. Be the change and know that you know FEAR IS A LIAR.

I love you. Thank you for being part of my path now. 🙏💜

When You Say Yoga What Comes to Mind?

There is a modification for that!

When You Say Yoga What Comes to Mind?

When you say yoga what comes to mind? Many people have a preconceived, some times negative, idea of what yoga is and what the people who practice are like. The truth is there is a long list of benefits of a regular yoga practice. Some of the common benefits include stress management, lower blood pressure, increased energy, improved flexibility and strength, and improved overall health and wellness. The trick is to pick a practice that aligns with your needs and goals.  Here at Life Keys Energy  we believe yoga should be fun and available to everyone. We offer upbeat, spunky yoga teachers, fun play lists, and teachers who are well versed in props and modifications helping you find your appropriate space in every pose. The first step in finding your perfect class is  understanding the different types of yoga that is available. Here at Life Keys Energy  there is a practice for everyone.

Vinyasa or Flow – The traditional vinyasa flow focuses on breath and alignment. In general, each pose is held for a breath and then you flow to the next asana or pose. This is an excellent practice for building strength and flexibility, while calming the mind.

Slow Flow/Gentle – This is a breath based, alignment focused class in which we use props and move at a slower pace. It is designed to help you increase flexibility and strength while moving slowly. The slower flow lends itself to more introspection and over all calming. It is appropriate for all fitness levels and an excellent starting point for anyone wishing to explore yoga.

Restorative/Yin – In this class we ask the props to do the work for us, while we lay on them feeling fully supported. This practice encourages passive stretching and encourages the parasympathetic nervous system to activate, resulting in increased flexibility and overall sense of calm. A regular restorative/yin practice lowers the stress response in the body, settles to mind, and improves flexibility. It is appropriate for everyone.

Yoga TRX – The TRX can be used as a prop to make poses accessible that are not yet available on the mat. It can also be used as a tool that makes poses more challenging. This class is excellent for building strength and flexibility with the added cardio benefits. It is an excellent supplementation for your regular yoga practice.

Prenatal/Postpartum Yoga – This class is lead with the knowledge of what is safe and what feels good during the different stages of pregnancy. The benefits of yoga during pregnancy are:  improved sleep, reduced stress and anxiety, increase the strength, flexibility and endurance of muscles needed for childbirth, decrease lower back pain, nausea, carpal tunnel syndrome symptoms, headaches and shortness of breath.

Trauma Informed Yoga – This practice is one that is designed to create a safe and comfortable environment for those who have experienced trauma. We create a safe and predictable environment allowing for relaxation and potential healing to occur. There are 2 yoga teacher’s here at Life Keys Energy who are certified in this practice. At this time, we do not have a specific class designated for trauma recovery, instead we incorporate these practices in all of our classes.

Laughing Yoga – This is a pranayama (breath work) practice involving prolonged voluntary laughter. Laughter yoga is based on the belief that voluntary laughter provides the same physiological and psychological benefits as spontaneous laughter. It encourages joy and is an excellent tool for those experiencing anxiety, depression, or PTSD.

Pranayama – This is the formal practice of controlling the breath, which is the source of our prana, or vital life force. When you tune into your breath you can reduce the stress response in the body, thus lowering cortisol and adrenaline.  Prolonged deep breathing increases oxygenation of the blood. It has been shown to help with anxiety, stress reduction, asthma, lowering blood pressure, and more. We include this practice during our yoga classes.

Meditation – There are many ways to meditate, including guided meditation, moving meditation, and zazen (still mind). There is not right or wrong way to meditate. This regular practice has been shown to decrease stress, anxiety, and depression while increasing feelings of happiness, self-acceptance, and concentration. It also improves the immune system, aids with restful sleep, and may slow the signs of aging.

 

Every class is designed with safety and comfort in mind. Our classes also may include aromatherapy, warm essential oil infused washcloths, verbal and physical assists, and other extras to help you relax even deeper. If you have questions about which class is appropriate for you reach out, we are happy to help. We are looking forward to seeing you on your mat.

 

Written by: Beckie Evans Owner of Life Keys Energy, RYT-200 and Healer

How My Yoga Journey Saved Me

 

Most people who know me or know of me, understand that I love yoga. Most people do not know why I am so passionate about having a daily yoga practice. Yoga literally saved my life. 9 years ago I was addicted to pain medications and vodka. I was suicidal and had attempted suicide a few times. I was living in this suffocating dark abyss. I had lost all hope and couldn’t even imagine how life might improve. So how did I go from that to what you all know now? Yoga and sobriety. I had started playing around with yoga before I got sober, but I was doing it for all the wrong reasons. I was doing it for a means of getting attention, not for the healing and life changing aspects of it. In rehab I started fumbling around with some very shaky Sun Salutation A and B and meditation. It was shaky for many reasons, the main one was in my last suicide attempt I gave myself a brain injury. So, literally at the start of my yoga journey I had balance issues, motor planning problems, couldn’t feel where my body was in space, and was learning what it felt like to be in my body instead of numbed out by opiates and alcohol. That is a-lot of road blocks! Incredibly, yoga met me where I was. I was blessed with several instructors who helped me make modifications, so yoga became possible. I became stronger, more flexible, and incredibly I became centered and calm. The changes on my mat eventually became transformation off my mat. Every time I wanted to use, I got on my mat. Every time I started to have a panic attack, I got on my mat. Every time life got “too big”, “too much”, just “too” I got on my mat. These are many of the reasons I adore yoga and am forever grateful for the practice. It is these reasons why I say “Yoga is for EVERYBODY!” and mean it. There are modifications available to meet you exactly where you are right now. I approach yoga with curiosity, suka (ease), and lila (play) this is how I share my passion. I am forever grateful for my yoga journey. Where will your yoga journey take you? What road blocks are you starting out with? How can I help you get onto your mat? Shine bright my friends, you are worth it!

Life Lessons from a Life Coach

 Today is my last day being 40 and if you know my story then you are aware that I am a story of destruction and rebirth especially in my thirties. Here is a list of the life lessons I learned so far:

1. No matter how dark it is if you can see a shadow, then there is a light source somewhere, follow the light. That is your hope, even when it seems you don’t have any. Don’t give up. Life changes quickly.
2. On the other hand, make peace with that shadow. There is nothing to fear in the dark. Learn to sit with yourself, all of yourself, alone. You will be better for it.
3. Some families are awesome, some aren’t. If yours isn’t make one that is. Everyone deserves to have a soft place to land, be loved on, laugh, have truth told to them, and to be safe. I call mine a tribe. Sometimes you cannot fix broken, sometimes you simply need to go find your people and love each other dearly. Go do that!
4. Heal your hurts, walk through your pain, deal with it. You aren’t going to die from pain, truly. There are helpers who will help you. Once you deal with your demons they can no longer hurt you. That is freeing. There are no words for this. Perhaps one, Joy… authentic joy comes from dealing with your shit.
5. Unapologetically chase your dreams and follow your heart. Society only knows what makes it happy, but you are unique and you have unique likes, dislikes, talents, and capabilities. Stop listening to the masses, stop listening to the blue print for life and start listening to your soul’s plans for life, you will be happier and more successful. _/\_
6. Do the right thing, always. Be of character, even if that takes baby steps to create. No one regrets standing in the light.
7. Give, love, laugh, teach, be kind… this world hurts, offer it a way to be better, and have a moment of comfort. Leave people better than you found them.
8. Not everyone is going to understand you, your struggle, your power, or who you are, it is not your job to out scream them, out smart them, or even out bully them, it is simply your job to be with them and if at all possible love them, but always remain you.
9. You cannot listen if you are talking or thinking about what to say next, nor can you take in what is being taught if your cup is full. So, if you already “know it all” please don’t bother you aren’t open to learning. 2+4=6 but so does 3+3 as does 1.9+ 4.1 …there are many ways of doing things. Be open.
10. You cannot pour out of an empty cup, self care is so uber important. You matter. Take care of yourself first and then the world.
These are my hard earned lessons. I offer them to you with love. Do with them as you see fit.

Brighter days are coming

unnamed (1)Mental illness. It is not a topic we like to talk about, but we should.It is silly not to. Nearly 1 in 5 Americans suffers with one, yet we don’t talk about it. Why? No one ever got better by pretending something wasn’t there. I know first hand what it feels like to be trapped under the boulder of clinical depression. I barely made it out of that hopeless state alive. I know the rock of anxiety well, we are on a first name basis. I have learned to talk about it. That is how I stand on top of this rock instead of under it. For me, I need to feed my body healthy non-processed food. That isn’t always what I am craving, but it is what I need. I need to be out in nature daily. I require daily exercise to stay in balance and I need sleep. I also meditate, that quiet still time keeps me grounded and life in perspective. It sounds simple, but those things changed my life dramatically. Besides that, I have two great support people so when that boulder starts creeping in I call then, I don’t wait until I am completely under it to start talking. That for me is a winning combination that keeps me dancing on top of the boulder these days.If you are struggling, reach out, there is an entire network of people trained to help you. Brighter days are within your reach, you just need to find what works for you!
Shine bright my friends, you are worth it!
If you are ready to start your life coaching journey or would like to schedule a Reiki session with me I can be reached at LifeKeysEnergy@gmail.com